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Have you ever considered...

Have you ever considered what you would be doing right now, at this very moment, if things worked out the way you have originally intended? Your life expectations are set to a high standard. You are actually continuously paving a road to your future constantly. You are projecting your expectations into your future experiences. Your past is your experience, the present is an experiment and the future is full of expectation. What we must do is to use our experience in our experiments to achieve our expectations. But sometimes, it does not always work out how we plan (or hope). For the past four years, I have set a very high bar for myself. With that bar, came extremely high standards that cause me to place a large sum of pressure on myself. Four years ago to this day, I decided that I wanted to take up writing as my newest hobby. Why? Because writing is a form of therapy. It is an escape mechanism. Something that lets me create an alternate ending to an unfinished story. It was als

Stop comparing yourself to others. Do these instead.

You know it already. You know you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. Yet, that’s often easier said than done. Job titles, income, grades, house, and Facebook likes—the number of categories in which we can compare ourselves to others are infinite. So is the number of people we can compare ourselves to. Comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness. It’s a recipe for misery. All it does is keeping you focused on what you don’t like about yourself and your life. Ever since I made the decision to choose to live for me, I’ve tried to focus on my new path. I’ve pictured myself as a horse with blinders, because I knew that looking too much on the sides would only keep me side-tracked. It worked for a while. While I was out traveling for a year I kept my eyes on the prize, so to speak. But, when I came back home again, it wasn’t so easy anymore. I caught myself glancing over to what other people had, and I didn’t. Where they were in life and I wasn’t. I had made the dec

How To: A guide to being a decent human

As human beings, we’re kind of selfish. This is a quality that I have recognized in myself many times, but don’t do anything about. Look at the world today; we’re not doing great with the whole peace and love idea that was so popular in the sixties and seventies. However, maybe we can change that--just start small. First off, this idea is pretty simple. Stop being rude to people. Especially servers, waiters, etc. They can only do so much, so how about you relax? Yes, your order will come. Stop shaking your leg and aggressively sighing to show them that they are wasting your precious time. If you are so short on time, then maybe you don’t need to be ordering a tall nonfat latte with two percent foam at precisely 120 degrees during the morning rush. The people you see walking around everyday have just as complex lives as you do. Maybe they are having a bad day already. You certainly do not need to add to it by being rude. Relax, my fellow human being, relax. There is no need to exert

What's your story?

In a previous blog, I wrote: 'The best present you could give yourself is the "present''. The past no longer exists and tomorrow never seems to come. All we have is now.' Even though I still believe this to be true, some recent events have changed my outlook on how to spend our time in the present.  We often let ourselves believe that we are defined by our circumstance, our family history, our environment or more. The truth is, we define ourselves by that, no one else does. When you finally get sick of reading the same shitty story over and over again, and you can recite the words by heart, you begin to wonder if there is more to life than that. I have come to this realization when the social bubble that I lived in burst. I tend to stick to my own little world. I was on my way home from my adventures downtown when I was approached by a man who appeared to be (stereotypically) homeless. I rarely ever turn away a chance to learn something new, which for m