You may outgrow people in your life, and people in your life may outgrow you. That's not tragic, that's normal. Growth is life.
Before we divorce our friends, let's divorce the idea that it has to be all or nothing. We don't need to have people as only a "best friend" OR completely cut out of our lives. It's okay to have people in our lives that we can only enjoy in moderation. Plenty of my friends live lifestyles and have priorities that don't line up with mine, and that doesn't mean I have to delete them from my life, it just means I can enjoy them in small doses.
We do ourselves and others a disservice when we decide that our history is more important than our future. When we notice our paths heading away from each other, we clinch arms, and both of us fall off course. The only thing we can be promised in life is change, whether that's change for the better or worse, is something our attitudes can impact. I'm not going to mourn a friendship that can't exist next year, I'll still show gratitude that it happened, and enjoy that person at a healthy distance.
Believe it or not, others have done that with me too, and I respect it. I know one of the F's in BFF stands for FOREVER, but as once said, "forever never seems that long until you're grown". Let's not let over-romanticized ideas slow down our growth in reality. Not everyone is going to walk with you to the next chapter, it's okay to turn the page without them. -M
Before we divorce our friends, let's divorce the idea that it has to be all or nothing. We don't need to have people as only a "best friend" OR completely cut out of our lives. It's okay to have people in our lives that we can only enjoy in moderation. Plenty of my friends live lifestyles and have priorities that don't line up with mine, and that doesn't mean I have to delete them from my life, it just means I can enjoy them in small doses.
We do ourselves and others a disservice when we decide that our history is more important than our future. When we notice our paths heading away from each other, we clinch arms, and both of us fall off course. The only thing we can be promised in life is change, whether that's change for the better or worse, is something our attitudes can impact. I'm not going to mourn a friendship that can't exist next year, I'll still show gratitude that it happened, and enjoy that person at a healthy distance.
Believe it or not, others have done that with me too, and I respect it. I know one of the F's in BFF stands for FOREVER, but as once said, "forever never seems that long until you're grown". Let's not let over-romanticized ideas slow down our growth in reality. Not everyone is going to walk with you to the next chapter, it's okay to turn the page without them. -M
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