February 3rd, 2018
Day #32
Surround yourself with open-minded people who are much more curious than judgemental.
I deal with my stresses harshly. I internalize them. In fact, as mostly everyone in my life knows, I stack more onto my plate to keep my mind off of the other stresses. I layer my stress with more stress.
The reality was, I wasn't ever in a bad situation, I was just being over judgemental. I wasn't open to the idea that maybe these challenges I was facing were an opportunity to grow. I didn't realize not having any money would gift me a beautiful simple peaceful life of minimalism, even after the money came back. The heart breaks and betrayals taught me to pay attention to people's actions over their words. Most of all, if none of that happened in my life.
I would have never written my books, and allows me to travel the world, I would have never changed my pathway in life, which defied every voice in my head. I didn't fix my problems over night, I am not 'fixed' yet. It's been a long road to crawl out of the holes I was in, but it all started with the simple idea: "Instead of judging my situation as good or bad, let me try to understand it instead".
Often we think judgemental people are ones that judge others, but really it's people who have been judged so hard themselves, they can't help but judge everything and everyone around them now. I was in the same boat, but I decided to break the cycle. I stopped judging other people, and instead made a bigger effort to understand them, I stopped judging my life circumstances, and made a bigger effort to understand them. From this small change, the direction of my life changed dramatically. It wasn't easy, but what made it easier was the company I kept.
Those people (some you know, some you don't), did so much to take the emotions away from my challenges, and help me focus on solutions. I stopped looking for the silver lining, and started creating it. Having good people in our lives isn't simply about enjoying their company, it's about dictating the direction and manner we want to exist. How do you want to live, are the people you surround yourself with the best people for that?
-M
Day #32
Surround yourself with open-minded people who are much more curious than judgemental.
I deal with my stresses harshly. I internalize them. In fact, as mostly everyone in my life knows, I stack more onto my plate to keep my mind off of the other stresses. I layer my stress with more stress.
The reality was, I wasn't ever in a bad situation, I was just being over judgemental. I wasn't open to the idea that maybe these challenges I was facing were an opportunity to grow. I didn't realize not having any money would gift me a beautiful simple peaceful life of minimalism, even after the money came back. The heart breaks and betrayals taught me to pay attention to people's actions over their words. Most of all, if none of that happened in my life.
I would have never written my books, and allows me to travel the world, I would have never changed my pathway in life, which defied every voice in my head. I didn't fix my problems over night, I am not 'fixed' yet. It's been a long road to crawl out of the holes I was in, but it all started with the simple idea: "Instead of judging my situation as good or bad, let me try to understand it instead".
Often we think judgemental people are ones that judge others, but really it's people who have been judged so hard themselves, they can't help but judge everything and everyone around them now. I was in the same boat, but I decided to break the cycle. I stopped judging other people, and instead made a bigger effort to understand them, I stopped judging my life circumstances, and made a bigger effort to understand them. From this small change, the direction of my life changed dramatically. It wasn't easy, but what made it easier was the company I kept.
Those people (some you know, some you don't), did so much to take the emotions away from my challenges, and help me focus on solutions. I stopped looking for the silver lining, and started creating it. Having good people in our lives isn't simply about enjoying their company, it's about dictating the direction and manner we want to exist. How do you want to live, are the people you surround yourself with the best people for that?
-M
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