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Growing up or growing out?

You may outgrow people in your life, and people in your life may outgrow you. That's not tragic, that's normal. Growth is life. Before we divorce our friends, let's divorce the idea that it has to be all or nothing. We don't need to have people as only a "best friend" OR completely cut out of our lives. It's okay to have people in our lives that we can only enjoy in moderation. Plenty of my friends live lifestyles and have priorities that don't line up with mine, and that doesn't mean I have to delete them from my life, it just means I can enjoy them in small doses. We do ourselves and others a disservice when we decide that our history is more important than our future. When we notice our paths heading away from each other, we clinch arms, and both of us fall off course. The only thing we can be promised in life is change, whether that's change for the better or worse, is something our attitudes can impact. I'm not going to mourn a fr

Good people, good energy.

Being around good people with good energy is priority. We have this hero complex where we think we're always the exception to the rule. We're not addicted to our phones, it is everyone else. The age of pointing fingers. We don't get influenced by advertising, that is everyone else. We are too smart, "woke", or whatever word we want to use to decorate our delusions. A large one is assuming we can influence others, without them influencing us. We have great chemistry, horrible chemistry, and everything in between with people, but it is chemistry none the less, and no one walks away the same after we cross paths. There's no shortage of people who need support, we all do, but some of us haven't taken the very crucial first step: helping ourselves. When you have good energy, you'll attract other good energy, but you'll also attract energy that's toxic. Everyone is worth helping, and even absorbing some of that toxic ener

Year of the blog: Day #35 - Give happiness a break (sometimes).

February 6th, 2018 Day #35 I don't care to be happy all the time. I see the value in other emotions, and happiness isn't the best teacher. What I do see value in is what are the things that trigger my different emotions. Sometimes, it is a specific person on social media, or a type of news story I read, or sometimes I'm just "hangry". It's important to become aware of those triggers, and to know that what may trigger you, may not impact other people, and vice versa. I see people lose their "cool" on social media over things I couldn't care less about, and sometimes they're over the top recreational outrage reactions annoy me, so I have to recognize that trigger. There's a popular saying that we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with. If we take that seriously for a moment, what do you learn from identifying who those five people are, and should those five people remain as your top 5? I'm not pushing a specific wa

Year of the blog: Day #33 - Evolve or remain.

February 4th, 2018 Day #33 If life didn't challenge us or throw unexpected curve balls at us...it would be boring. We wouldn't grow. Not to say we don't deserve a happy and comfortable life. But it is to say... we need to have periods intermittent growth throughout all stages of our life- and that growth comes not only with the ups of life, but also with the downs. It's often through the rough patches where we get to know ourselves more. Learn to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations. Learn to be comfortable to say no to things that don't feed your joy peace or happiness. We won't always get our way- but we can learn make the best of what life throws at us and adapt. You are being presented with a choice: evolve or remain. If you choose to remain unchanged, you will be presented with the same challenges, the same routine, the same storms and situations until you learn from them. Until you love yourself enough to say, 'no more.' Or better yet, until

Year of the blog: Day #32 - Surroundings.

February 3rd, 2018 Day #32 Surround yourself with open-minded people who are much more curious than judgemental. I deal with my stresses harshly. I internalize them. In fact, as mostly everyone in my life knows, I stack more onto my plate to keep my mind off of the other stresses. I layer my stress with more stress. The reality was, I wasn't ever in a bad situation, I was just being over judgemental. I wasn't open to the idea that maybe these challenges I was facing were an opportunity to grow. I didn't realize not having any money would gift me a beautiful simple peaceful life of minimalism, even after the money came back. The heart breaks and betrayals taught me to pay attention to people's actions over their words. Most of all, if none of that happened in my life. I would have never written my books, and allows me to travel the world, I would have never changed my pathway in life, which defied every voice in my head. I didn't fix my problems over night, I am no

Year of the blog: Day #30 - 20-Something things I've learned in 20-something years.

February 1st, 2018 Day #30 IT IS MY BIRTHDAY! So this means it is time for a cheesy message incoming... I am thankful that I get to wake up everyday in a country where I have the privilege to work and go to school. I am thankful for the opportunity to share my thoughts, most times without filter with the general public (and not be silenced). I am thankful for the healthcare system that Canada has in place. No, it is not perfect, but I don't know where I would be without it. I am thankful to have the chances in life to make a difference, no matter how big or small. I am thankful for having a lot of people in my life who care about me, whether it be for 365 days of the year, or for just today. This was the first birthday that just felt like a normal day. Then I get some pretty cool notifications, calls, texts and hugs that make me realize that I've made it pretty far in life, and that is worth celebrating. Then it got me thinking, I am approaching my mid 20's and have do

Year of the blog: Day #29 - Toxic People

January 31st, 2018 Day #29 They was a forgiver. Their heart was so large that they didn't know how to give up on people, because they always believed in the good of those they loved. It wasn't until they were walked on one too many times, that they had no choice but to let go of those who burned holes in their heart. Experience taught them, hurt raised them, neither defined them. Sometimes, the ones that are supposed to protect you from monsters are the monsters. It takes an undeniable amount of courage and strength to walk away from toxicity. It is not strengthening your relationship by staying in something toxic. You are not stronger people. It is not love. It is toxic. Fighting everyday is not passionate love. It is toxic. Being with someone purely because you've been together a long time is not strong. It is toxic. You are not more enlighten because you stay together. It is toxic. You are killing your psyche. Think of it as a dinner table, and you are being fed food