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Year of the blog: Day #11 - Resolutions

January 13th, 2018

Day #11

I know new years resolutions were soooooo two weeks ago, but I figure for those looking to have a great year, what better day to make a tiny improvement than today. Not that I even make resolutions, I achieve goals.

 I work for myself, and I was worst boss I ever had. I wore swear at myself, belittle myself, and be so unkind with myself, thinking it was okay; it's not. The way we treat ourselves sets the tone for other others treat us as well. If we talk down to ourselves, that's going to create a familiarity around it that will not only make it okay for other folks to speak to us like that, it'll also make it feel normal.

Be nice to yourself, and be kind to yourself. Encourage yourself to do things the way you would encourage someone else that you cared about. Self love isn't self indulgence, it's practice being and feeling wonderful, and then sharing that with others. And while we're making mid-January resolutions, keep an eye out for other people that treat themselves like shit, you may have the urge to save them, but you can only make so many tries before you get sucked into their "crapfest", protect your peace, and devote the rest of your energy to others trying to do the same. Those who seems trapped in their own mess sometimes have to sink before they're willing to swim.

- M

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