January 9th, 2018
Day #7
After my second relationship heartbreak, I took it upon myself to start observing other people's relationships. I desperately wanted to know why they were successful, and why I failed with my heart on the floor in a billion pieces. Most of the relationships I observed didn't have much to envy, and like most things in life, they look great until you take a closer look.
I don't spend too much time giving relationship advice, because the comment section would explode with people of my past and present calling me out, or give the always sugarcoated "you just haven't found the one yet", and they wouldn't be wrong.
Instead, I'll just keep pushing the idea that we need to have a healthier relationship with ourselves, and that somehow will magically translate into a healthy relationship with someone else. I have friends that are serial 'monogamos' (I made that word up myself 😏), they jump from one serious relationship to the next, and don't really give themselves time to breath, I'm not sure that's the best way to approach things.
As I wrote a few times in "Enough", we have no business seeking love from others, when we don't love ourselves. That bandaid solution can have long term consequences. Instead, let's better understand ourselves, thrive in solitude so when we do connect with someone, it can be on a deeper, genuine, and more beautiful level. But really, what do I know? My track record isn't much better than any of yours. Take this with a pound of salt.
- M
Day #7
After my second relationship heartbreak, I took it upon myself to start observing other people's relationships. I desperately wanted to know why they were successful, and why I failed with my heart on the floor in a billion pieces. Most of the relationships I observed didn't have much to envy, and like most things in life, they look great until you take a closer look.
I don't spend too much time giving relationship advice, because the comment section would explode with people of my past and present calling me out, or give the always sugarcoated "you just haven't found the one yet", and they wouldn't be wrong.
Instead, I'll just keep pushing the idea that we need to have a healthier relationship with ourselves, and that somehow will magically translate into a healthy relationship with someone else. I have friends that are serial 'monogamos' (I made that word up myself 😏), they jump from one serious relationship to the next, and don't really give themselves time to breath, I'm not sure that's the best way to approach things.
As I wrote a few times in "Enough", we have no business seeking love from others, when we don't love ourselves. That bandaid solution can have long term consequences. Instead, let's better understand ourselves, thrive in solitude so when we do connect with someone, it can be on a deeper, genuine, and more beautiful level. But really, what do I know? My track record isn't much better than any of yours. Take this with a pound of salt.
- M
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