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Year of the blog: Day #1 - The mould.


January 3rd,  2018
Day #1

Have you ever had a long day, and then when someone asks you what you want for dinner, you reply "I don't care, whatever you want?"

That's usually because you're tired and don't have the energy to make any more decisions. There is such thing as decisions fatigue, it's why guys like Steve Jobs and Zuckerberg wear the same clothes everyday, it's one less decision to make. When we don't want to make decisions, they end up being made for us, that's why society has so many templates.

We plug ourselves into those templates and then as long as we stick to the script, things feel a bit more secure, but that doesn't' always last. If we don't want to decide our lives, society will tell us, if we don't want to figure out right from wrong, religion will tell us, if we can't figure out how to be happy, advertisements will tell us; There will forever be someone there to sell us a life, if we don't want create our own. When we buy into what they're selling, then we've also bought into the pressure the keep up with everyone else. Those pressures give us grey hair much earlier than we should, it makes caffeine addiction socially acceptable, and allows fear, guilt and shame to be used as weapons to keep us in line.

The more I hustle, the more I realized that these templates aren't the only way we can live, and that it's okay to create your own values, beliefs, and ideals for what life should be. I'm well aware that people similar to me are relevant because other people need help dealing with those pressures and feelings, but I'm more than happy to work myself out of a job, especially if that means the rest of you can break free from some of these chains. Decide who you want to be, otherwise someone else will do it for you.

- M

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