January 7th, 2018
Day #5
People will choose familiarity over happiness, even if familiarity sucks. As active members in society, it is up to us to figure out when we are choosing something that is comfortable over something that is simply good for us.
We are allowed to break that cycle.
All of us are carrying things from our childhood, that may have made sense back then, but no longer apply. We can call this baggage, issues, or just being human, regardless, they exist, and we need to make time to identify them. I think a lot about how much we all do to simply say, "notice me! Recognize my value," and how that's been used to create entire systems designed for nothing more than to temporarily scratch that itch (*cough cough* Instagram).
We spend crazy amounts of energy crafting and executing different strategies to get the right people to validate us, without asking ourselves, "why is that important?"
How much of the things you do would you still do if no one was left on the planet to watch you do them? We've evolved from being tribal, but our tribes are too big to work with now, and seeking anyone's approval is both unsustainable and pointless, because there will always be someone else with an opinion that disapproves. A lot of this comes from what we were used to experiencing growing up, and even if we grew up in something dysfunctional (which we all did on some level), that doesn't mean we need to keep dysfunction as our security blanket now, we're allowed to craft a life more normal and stable. That's a process in itself, and it won't start until we start breaking up who we are from the inside out, figure out what parts of us we need to feed, and what choices and habits need to get "friendzoned". And while we're at it, stop judging other people for making choices we don't agree with, let them do their thing and figure out their baggage, just because we have opinions, doesn't mean they need to be shared all the time.
Day #5
People will choose familiarity over happiness, even if familiarity sucks. As active members in society, it is up to us to figure out when we are choosing something that is comfortable over something that is simply good for us.
We are allowed to break that cycle.
All of us are carrying things from our childhood, that may have made sense back then, but no longer apply. We can call this baggage, issues, or just being human, regardless, they exist, and we need to make time to identify them. I think a lot about how much we all do to simply say, "notice me! Recognize my value," and how that's been used to create entire systems designed for nothing more than to temporarily scratch that itch (*cough cough* Instagram).
We spend crazy amounts of energy crafting and executing different strategies to get the right people to validate us, without asking ourselves, "why is that important?"
How much of the things you do would you still do if no one was left on the planet to watch you do them? We've evolved from being tribal, but our tribes are too big to work with now, and seeking anyone's approval is both unsustainable and pointless, because there will always be someone else with an opinion that disapproves. A lot of this comes from what we were used to experiencing growing up, and even if we grew up in something dysfunctional (which we all did on some level), that doesn't mean we need to keep dysfunction as our security blanket now, we're allowed to craft a life more normal and stable. That's a process in itself, and it won't start until we start breaking up who we are from the inside out, figure out what parts of us we need to feed, and what choices and habits need to get "friendzoned". And while we're at it, stop judging other people for making choices we don't agree with, let them do their thing and figure out their baggage, just because we have opinions, doesn't mean they need to be shared all the time.
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